Questions, My Dear Watson, Questions
Questions, My Dear Watson, Questions
How do you first get to know a girl? Maybe you meet her at a club and dance or you meet her at work. Perhaps, you get introduced or you run into someone at a store.
These are great ways to meet Japanese women. But what to do next? Obviously if you're interested in getting to know her, you start up a conversation.
First conversations/dates are always a little nerve-wracking. I have a simple remedy for this though.
Have you ever seen the movie, "The 40 Year Old Virgin"? There is some excellent advice in there about asking questions.
As I mentioned before, we Japanese women are selfish. We want to talk about ourselves.
So, ask us simple questions. And when we answer, try to expand on our answer with some more questions.
For example:
"Where are you from?"
"I'm from Ueno."
"Really, have you always lived in Ueno?"…
Or,
"What do you like to do on the weekends?"
"I like to go shopping."
"Where do you go shopping?"/ "What do you like to shop for?"
Just try to get us to expand upon what we are already saying.
That doesn't mean we don't want you to talk about yourself. A guy that never talks about himself isn't trustworthy. But make us a priority.
Another important part about starting up a relationship with a Japanese women is getting her trust.
That is very important for us. Even after we have started dating, we still feel a bit uneasy for a while.
How can you gain our trust? Contact us often. Small talk via e-mail or a phone call every now and then is great!
The more we see you, the more relaxed we'll feel around you and the more likely we'll fall for you!
That being said, don't overdo it! A mail or two a day is enough. We are like a flower, no water and we die, too much water and we drown.
Another way to look at it is like this. You are a salesman.
When you first come to sell your goods (present yourself to a girl) we have never met you before.
It is hard for us to trust you and we are likely to refuse at first.
But when you stay in contact with your client and they get to know you, your client will be more likely to purchase goods from you (go out on a date/become comfortable with you.)
Once we feel we can trust you, it will be a much smoother path towards love.
If you follow my advice, I'm sure you'll be finding a special girl in no time! Good luck and see you again! (*^_^*)