Back Away Slowly...｜International Matching Party

Hi there everyone, I am back after a short hiatus. Hope things have been going all right with you all. Things are finally starting to warm up, meaning that it is time to start thinking about hanami, or watching the cherry blossoms. Japanese people love to roll out their blue tarps and sit under the sakura drinking beer. And it's one of my favorite customs too. If you are in the Tokyo area, I recommend Shinjuku Gyoen, but if you want to avoid the crowds, you are better off visiting some of the smaller places, like in Naka-Meguro. A veteran tip is to bring your own toilet paper, because those toilets get mighty crowded and they don't get restocked. If you know a cute girl, it makes for a nice date.

So today's tip is pretty simple. I know you want to date a Japanese girl, and maybe it's getting to the point where you want to date anyone who looks your way and cling on to her. And hey, if she is a good girl, all the power to you. But there are all sorts of women in this world, and some of them happen to be crazy.

And for a while, it is awesome. I have always had a weakness for crazy myself, because, well, they are wild in the bedroom. But after that initial rush of awesome, you will likely feel like getting out…and the crazier a girl is, the trickier it can be. I mean, to get rid of one, I literally had to flee the country and move to Japan (though it's only one of many reasons that I am here).

But basically, you need to get rid of the crazies as soon as you can.

There are a few things you want to look out for –

1. Jealousy
   
   If she gets aggressive when you ever mention another girl, you had better start running.
2. Clinginess
   
   If she seems to be texting you all the time and always wondering where you are, it won't go away. Time to get out.
3. Lying/Stealing
   
   If you catch her lying about where she's been or stealing your money…LEAVE. If you catch her, she will stop for a while, but it won't go away, you won't trust her, and you will end up miserable.
4. Public Displays of Aggression
   
   If you find that she is perfectly comfortable yelling at you in public, GET OUT.
5. Family
   
   This is a complex one. If a girl comes from a twisted family, these things will manifest in her, and likely manifest in your relationship. On the other hand, if she is inviting you to meet her family on the second date, that is a little odd too, even in Japan. This is a topic for another article, because it is a very nuanced thing in Japan.

All you have to do is google "Signs that your girlfriend is crazy" and you'll find a plethora of articles to help you out.

All I have to say is that as soon as you find out that your girlfriend is crazy, you are better off ending it sooner than later, because the deeper in you get, the harder it will be to get out because your feelings will get stronger and she will start getting even battier.

Good luck!